Last week, I've launched the new year getting adjusted to a new routine. I can juggle my standard work, freelancing gigs, and writing content for my websites. It's worked out well. I felt productive the past week- I wrote six content posts and recorded three Youtube videos. Although I've stayed busy and kept an eye on time management, I had some discouraging thoughts. I asked myself, “Why should I feel discouraged?”. I felt compelled to write about it because many people often feel this way.
Even though I accomplished a lot in the past week, some things weren't going my way. For instance, earning some commissions throughout the week. But that didn't take place, and that's common for those starting in business. Although making commissions is the intended outcome, that's not the “end all be all” to feel discouraged. You see, it's easy to get discouraged when things aren't working out in your favor. When you get discouraged, it's easy to start doubting yourself and think about throwing in the towel.
Why Should I Feel Discouraged? Don't Give Up- Stick To It
No matter how good or bad things are in life, it's essential to understand that it's not time to give up on something. Whether that is managing a business, or going through a struggling marriage, you need a certain level of commitment to see meaningful results. When starting a new business or learning a new skill, success doesn't happen overnight. Every one of us at Wealthy Affiliate understands that our platform is not a “get rich overnight” scheme.
Matt Leblanc, the actor who played Joey in the famous sitcom Friends, mentioned how at one time, he only had $11 in his bank account. The time was before he landed his successful role on Friends, but he talked about his struggles. Also, how he overcame them to get to his life-changing breakout. Leblanc's story reminds me that even some of the most successful people were discouraged. Still, they didn't give up so easily.
I've been going to the gym for nearly 11 months. When I started my first few weeks, it took a while to get used to it. But over time, as I stuck to a schedule, it became more comfortable and more natural to do it. Eleven months later, I feel better (physically and mentally) and lost 18 pounds. Losing 18 pounds didn't happen overnight, so it took a level of commitment on me to lose a substantial amount of weight. I'm glad I'm still going and set new challenges for myself.
Why Should I Feel Discouraged? Reach Out To Others
One of my short-term goals was always to be in a network of individuals who have similar interests, and support each other. It can be personal (family and friends) and certainly professional connections. We all know that networking is crucial to be successful in any aspect of life. Building relationships with others is key to long-term success and something that is a lifelong practice for anyone to master.
I'm glad to be part of a few online groups that have common goals in mind. Although online networks can be different from offline groups, connecting with others still counts. As long as I can find people who are willing to help me succeed, it's a good starting point. Make it a lifelong goal to surround yourself with people who will challenge, encourage, and support whatever you want to do in your life.
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Why Should I Feel Discouraged?
Sometimes, I think many people (even myself) forget to set time aside for personal care. As much as taking care of others is necessary, taking care of ourselves needs to come first. When you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of other people. This meaning is what differentiates between self-care and being selfish.
Sometimes, putting yourself first isn't always selfish. If you skip a meal or two, or neglect sleep to do something else that can wait, that's refusing to take care of yourself. Eating and getting the right amount of sleep is not being selfish. That's ignoring essential self-care, and you're doing more harm than good to yourself.
Make Sure To Take Care Of Yourself
In recent years, there were many days I neglected self-care for myself. In my last job, sometimes I worked 10-12 hour days at the office, not to mention dealing with negativity and bad relationships. At the same time, I wasn't getting enough sleep and ended up eating junk food as well. It wasn't a healthy lifestyle then, so I was neglecting basic human needs. I realized that I shouldn't try to be SuperMan and do many things (all at once), while at the same time refusing to take care of myself.
I knew that had to change. In the last year, I've gotten much better-taking care of myself. I changed my diet- I'm eating less, but I'm eating better. I mentioned that I regularly go to the gym, and that's benefitted myself physically and mentally. Some days, I still find it challenging when I'm doing a lot of work and feel behind on things. But I've learned to keep self-care in mind, even when things aren't going well; for example, having a bad day. So make sure to take care of yourself, I can't emphasize how important to achieving your lifelong goals.
It's ok to feel discouraged sometimes. But if it leads to doubt your abilities to achieve extraordinary things, think twice about it. It's easy to throw in the towel and call it quits. When this happens, we go back to our old selves and settle for mediocrity. When you're in a situation such as this one, make sure not to settle. Stick to what you're doing, reach out to others who support you, and remember to take care of yourself.
Have you felt discouraged when things don't work out in your favor?
How did you handle these discouraging thoughts?
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