A couple of weeks ago, I talked about struggling with perfectionism while growing up. I consider myself a little OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder), and I tried to make things work out correctly. Am I perfect? As much as I tried to make outcomes work in my favor, I know that is not possible. Now that I remember being perfect is not the best way to go, I’m much better at handling challenging situations.
Am I perfect?
If you’re asking yourself whether you’re perfect or not, you need to stop asking that question. If you obsess about perfectionism, you’re already setting yourself up for failure. Not only that, you choose not to learn new things and seek better opportunities. At this point in my life, I wish I had ignored perfectionism so I can allow myself to learn and fail. Had I done that, I might have gone into better routes than I have now.
In this post, I will go over a few things about overcoming perfectionism. Some people are trying to be perfect, which may be holding them back further. If we understand that perfection is not the solution in life, we may be more mindful of our actions. I will go over the following points:
1.) Changing your mindset
2.) Understanding thoughts you can and cannot control
3.) Narrowing your focus
4.) Striving for excellence, not perfection
Am I perfect? Work on changing your mindset
Within the last year, my mindset has changed for the better. When I started learning new things (or identifying my problems), it was a struggle changing the way I thought about some things. For example, subjects such as building wealth or finding my higher purpose in life lead to a wake-up call. The ideas I thought before went down the garbage. Now I have a new set of thinking that can help me get to the next level.
Mindset: Old thinking vs. new thinking
Changing my mindset has helped me a lot, but I still struggle with it sometimes. Whenever I read some articles on mindset, there are always thoughts on turning negative thinking into positive thinking. For instance, instead of saying, “I have to go workout, really?”, replace it by saying, “If I want to keep my body in shape and remain happy, going to the gym will have a great impact on my health.” Also, one thought I struggle with is, “Oh, that person makes so much money. How lucky is he? I wish I were like him.” In place of this thought, say something like, “That’s great. He knows what he’s talking about. I can do that as well.” So thoughts such as these should be looked at positively.
Understand what you can and cannot control
As I mentioned earlier, there are things you can control, while others you cannot. You can manage your inner thoughts, thinking that you can control them. Examples of inner thoughts include character, values, and behavior. We can believe in certain beliefs, but that’s not always the case. Someone else’s opinions may change over time, which is a result of changes in inner thoughts.
These are thoughts that we don’t have any control of. Examples include the beliefs and behaviors of others and past actions. Also, pretty much the natural world around us. Any events taking place elsewhere is not in our control. Instead of changing those outcomes, you need to learn about to react and live with it. Whether it’s good or bad, understanding how to move on from the past is the only way moving forward.
Narrow your focus (priorities)
Whenever some people work on multiple projects, it’s not the best approach to staying focused. While at the same time, some people will pursue perfection if they try to work on all tasks simultaneously. Perfection means you’re not prioritizing your responsibilities when it’s needed the most. Instead, your focus needs to be narrowed down to work more effectively.
Whenever I have a lot of tasks to do, I make sure to prioritize the most critical tasks first. Each day, I ask myself: What are three things I need to get done today. When I write them down, I label them as my top priorities. As long as I know which tasks need to get done, I make sure to prioritize them appropriately. Prioritizing your tasks will help you narrow down your focus and clear your mind as well.
Ditch perfection- Strive for excellence.
Being perfect is one thing, but not the same as achieving excellence. These two concepts don’t mean the same thing. Perfection means strictness or not committing errors in your work. Excellence means you made an effort to produce quality work. Though excellent work may not be perfect, high-quality work will always win at the end of the day.
Excellence over perfection
As I list on my website, I encourage my visitors to strive for a life of excellence. An experience where you make your best effort into your work. It’s one where you can reach your full potential regardless of any obstacles you might face. Though perfection is not the goal, committing excellence will be much more fulfilling down the road.
It’s obvious to point out each one of us is not perfect. If you’ve tried to achieve perfection, I urge you to stop. It’s not worth making your life more difficult. Not only that, you could be setting yourself back (or even more significant failures). Life is not perfect either way. Yet I’ll admit this post is not perfect, also if it’s in the best format.
In conclusion, whatever you do (i.e.a big project) will be a challenge. It may not be perfect, but it’s worth making an effort and committing mistakes if needed. You never know, maybe something doesn’t work out the first time around. Take what you learned initially, and make it better the next time around. Anyway, I’m ranting, but you get my points.
As I keep saying: Avoid perfection and strive for excellence!
Have you got obsessed trying to be perfect? If so, what kind of struggles did you go through?
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